The ProActive Psychology Weekly

Here's something most screen-time advice misses: where the screen lives in your house matters more than how long your child is on it. Three things you might recognise: The 9pm fight running your evenings Your child coming home saying "I'm the only one without the app" A meltdown the second the device goes off If any of these feel familiar, you're probably past the point where another rule is going to help. That's because the rules aren't the problem. The developmental work underneath is:...

Most parents dealing with school refusal do the same thing: they keep their child home to let them recover. It makes complete sense. Your child is genuinely distressed. The body symptoms are real. Forcing them out the door feels cruel. But here's what the research shows: every time a child avoids school, and the distress passes, the brain files it as confirmation that school was dangerous and avoidance worked. Next time, the alarm fires sooner. The anxiety grows. The longer the absence, the...

Most girls with ADHD never get the hyperactive label. They get a different set of words. "Chatty." "Disorganised." "Lovely girl, just needs to apply herself." Teachers write those comments every term. Parents read them and think, "That's her personality." But those exact phrases are textbook inattentive ADHD. The presentation is most common in girls. And the one least likely to be recognised. Three things parents often miss: The homework battle that takes two hours isn't about effort. Her...

The biggest influence on your child's development isn't what you think. It's not the right school. Not extracurriculars. Not even genetics. It's your relationship with them. Specifically, whether they feel safe coming to you when things are hard. Here's why it matters more than everything else: Emotional regulation develops through co-regulation: Your child learns to calm down by being calmed by you hundreds of times. No app or activity teaches that. Social skills come from secure attachment:...

Your child doesn't fit into one box. That's because they're in two. You've tried ADHD strategies - they help with some things but make others worse. You've tried autism supports - same story.↳ Nothing fully fits. That's not because you're doing it wrong. It's because ADHD and autism together (sometimes called AuDHD) create competing needs. Why parenting feels impossible: ADHD wants novelty, autism wants routine - They need predictability to feel safe, but get bored with the same schedule. So...

ADHD doesn't always look like what you'd expect. It's not always the kid bouncing off walls or shouting out answers. Sometimes it's quiet. Subtle. Hiding in plain sight. Three signs that often get missed: The daydreamer - They're not ignoring you. Their brain moved to something more interesting three sentences ago. ADHD isn't just hyperactivity - it's attention that won't stay where you need it. The emotional kid - They cry over small things, explode over minor frustrations, feel everything...

Meltdowns aren't defiance. Your child isn't testing you. They've hit their limit - emotionally, sensory-wise, or cognitively - and their brain can't cope anymore. Three scenarios that make sense once you know this: The grocery store meltdown - It's not the "no" to the chocolate. It's the fluorescent lights, the crowd noise, the decision fatigue from 20 minutes of visual input. By the time you say no, they're already maxed out. The homework explosion - They were fine all day at school. But...

You know you're safe now. But your body still reacts like you're not. Here's why - and what it means:↳ Trauma physically changed your brain. Not metaphorically. Actually changed it. Three examples you might recognise: Scanning every room for exits? Your brain's alarm system learned to map escape routes. It kept you safe once. It hasn't turned off. Flashbacks that feel real? Your brain can't file the memory as "past." So it keeps popping up like it's happening now. Snapping at people for small...

Your trauma therapy has slowed down. Maybe even stopped moving completely. And you're wondering: "Am I doing something wrong?" Here's what's actually happening. Your nervous system is protecting you — not sabotaging you. When trauma therapy stalls, it's often because your brain has decided: "We've gone far enough for now. Time to consolidate before we push deeper." This isn't resistance. It's regulation. Your nervous system knows how much you can handle. And sometimes that means pausing —...

The first therapy session often comes with a lot of pressure. People worry they need: the right words a clear goal a neat explanation of what’s wrong And when they don’t have those things, they wonder if they’re already doing it “wrong.” The truth is, therapy doesn’t start with insight or preparation. It starts with showing up. Most people leave their first session feeling relieved — not because they said the right thing, but because they didn’t have to. We’ve written a step-by-step guide...